weird ≠ bad
a lot of people, including queer and/or neurodiverse people, have yet to overcome the idea that something being weird to you doesn't make it bad. it's unsurprising why people in majority groups wouldn't be sympathetic to what doesn't align with society's standard of normal, but i wouldn't expect it from queer and/or neurodiverse people. "weird" is the reason society uses to justify making you a target for bullying, discrimination, etc. yet instead of questioning whether being weird is an offense deserving punishment to begin with, you defend palatable weird-ness. when someone acts in a manner that makes them an outsider to you, you'll act the same way the majority does, including believing that this is a moral failure.
i'm not against someone feeling like something's weird or that it makes them uncomfortable; these emotions are a part of being human, and there's nothing wrong with having preferences that produce specific reactions. however, you should be able to sit with your discomfort and recognize internally that "even if this is personally displeasing to me, it is not offensive, immoral, etc. and there's nothing objectively wrong with this person doing this," and afterward take the actions you need to in order to create comfort for yourself.
too many people are uncomfortable with acknowledging that their negative emotions may not be due to something anyone's at fault for, and they then decide the cause of it is a "problem" to avoid that. it ironically usually involves behaving in ways that are more harmful than whatever had made them uncomfortable; it's sadly a reflection of humanity's tendency towards selfishness, since it's often that people only care about morality when it's related to themselves. rules for thee but not for me?
that being said, i don't believe this matter is entirely hopeless. there are thousands of people who've thought about and came to this conclusion, and with the increasing acceptance of people seen as weird in modern times, i believe there's a chance we'll eventually come to be a society that's more aware of this fact. i can only hope that people who think like this also see that it's best to try not to judge harshly when they see something they're averse to, because it only hurts themselves and others in the process, and not even for good reason.